For centuries, society has depicted women as complicated beings, their wants and needs a veritable puzzle to which men are never wholly meant to unlock. But this idea is not only too simplistic. It is outright false. Women seek, just like men, understanding, respect and love. But unfortunately, many of the myths we’ve inherited across generations from our fathers have led to miscommunication and friction among the genders. Below we will clarify some common myths that men have regarding what makes women happy.
The Illusion of Materialistic Happiness
Many men are under the false impression that showering a woman with extravagant gifts and extravagant lifestyles is the best way to win her heart. While money can pay for temporary pleasure, it is certainly not the key to her heart.
Beauty Standards
The bygone concept that women find happiness though a specific external quality must be discarded. A woman cannot be happy from her appearance alone. True happiness arises from self-love and self-acceptance and feeling truly at ease with one’s body regardless of the societal beauty standard.
Love Language: The Power of Words
Many men believe that actions speak louder than words. There is definitely some validity to that. Nonetheless, don’t discount telling someone you love her. To a woman, saying you love her, complimenting her, and expressing your feelings are ways to make them feel cherished and happy. Words have the power to make an impression on someone’s heart.
The Protector vs. The Partner
Although a knight-in-shining-armor plot may work well for a movie script, in real life women don’t want a protector – they want a partner. They value emotional security, equality, and mutual respect, not a sense of being protected or guarded.
Independence Is Not Indifference
Often, men falsely assume that a woman’s craving for independence translates to a rejection of the relationship. A woman can completely fall in love, while also valuing her own space. A woman’s value of independence does not equate her to love and care for her partner any less.
The Emotional Enigma
There’s a widespread assumption that emotions always govern women’s actions. Women may disclose their emotions more often or more openly; however, this does not indicate that they are not capable of reasoning through logic and making rational decisions. To suggest otherwise is to imply that are not as intelligent.
Simple Gestures, Profound Impact
A lot of men think that women need huge gestures to be happy. The truth is, women enjoy the little things more. Like when you make her a cup of coffee in the morning or when you ask about her day, those little things matter.
One Size Doesn’t Fit All
All women are unique, and as such their definition of happiness is unique. It is a gross misunderstanding to believe that all women want the same things in life. A woman’s happiness is contingent upon her needs, wants, and dreams.
A Listening Ear vs. A Solving Mind
When women talk about their concerns, men are quicker to begin problem solving, when, in fact, women are only asking to be heard. Having this awareness can improve communication and satisfaction in relationships.
The Career vs. Family Dilemma
There are still men who think fulfillment for a woman means making a choice to either work or have a family. It’s simply not true. Lots of women feel fulfilled in their careers or at home. It doesn’t have to be a choice, rather it should be about merging your career and home life.
The Mysterious Silent Treatment
Men often misinterpret a woman’s silence as anger or upset, just as men often need their own silence to think or re-check their thoughts. Showing respect during a woman’s silence and allowing her to have some respite would be strengthening and pleasurable for them as a couple.
Sharing Hobbies: The Couple that Plays Together, Stays Together
The idea that a woman has no desire to actively engage in a hobby with her partner is a misconception. In fact, many women welcome shared activities, as they foster trust and have shared interests.
Honesty is the Best Policy
The potential for honesty to bring happiness to a woman is not fully appreciated. Even when the truth is harsh, being honest builds trust and is a sign of respect for her intelligence.
The Ex Factor
Thinking of women as always comparing their current partner to an ex-partner is a mistake. Most women are more future-oriented; they think and plan for the current relationship happiness or the relationship they desire.
The Myth of the ‘Ideal Man’
Certain men think that there is an ‘ideal man’ whom all women wish to be with. This is a fallacy. What a woman finds appealing in a partner varies greatly from one woman to the next, and there is no one right ‘ideal man’.
Overrated Male Traits That Women Don’t Care About
The intricate dance of attraction often gives way to a host of misconceptions about what the opposite sex finds appealing. One such area, laden with misconceptions, is the commonly held beliefs about what traits women find attractive in men. Here’s a list of overrated male traits that women might not actually care about as much as men think.
Overrated Male Traits That Women Don’t Care About
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